December is nutty. While this season carries so much joy, it is easy to get lost in the slue of invitations, party sign up sheets, gift lists, and gatherings. We wanted to share a few practical reminders to help you slow down and catch a breath this holiday season.

Say no to something.

This may come naturally or be a challenge for you, but either way it is essential. If we approach every invitation or suggestion as necessity - we will burn out. The same principle we preach all year around applies (maybe more than ever) now - if it’s all “important”, really none of it is “important”. Use discretion, pause, and consider a few things before rsvp-ing YES to everything that comes your way. This is a way of creating margin where possible in your day, week, and life overall.

• Running from place to place with tired children? No thank you.

• Sitting in traffic to arrive late and hurry on to the next thing? Let’s not.

• Placing online order after online order frantically to realize you spent more than you intended? Not this year.

Schedule “downtime”.

Whether this is a routine rhythm in your houe or not, this is a great time of year to begin practicing it. Just like all of us humans need rest, maybe we should let our devices rest. Turn the screens off. Give your eyes and ears a break from stimulization. You’ll be amazed what you might notice - the smell of snowy air, the sound of birds or leaves rustling in the cold, the fresh air on your face. Take a walk, play a board game, light a candle, turn on the instrumental music. Basically, turn down the volume on all the loudness of life around you. You know when something isn’t working and you have to unplug it and give it a few minutes - this might be exactly what we need to do with ourselves.

Savor meaningful traditions.

Before you try to create a dozen special things to do every year, just pick one. Was there something you did with friends or family that was special last year? Schedule a time to engage in it again this year, it’s that simple - now it’s an annual tradition. It doesn’t need to be expensive or elaborate. For example - last year we decided to let our kids and our friends kids decorate sugar cookies with an ungodly amount of icing and sprinkles (while a majority of it was consumed during the decorating) then we took them on a freezing cold caroling blitz to some our friendliest neighbors. We laughed, we made messes, we cleaned them up, we cheered some folks up, and we decided we should do it again.

Looking for a new experience this season? Climb aboard the Christmas Lantern Express or snag a ticket to see the Polar Express in the beautiful Tennessee Theatre.

Remember what matters.

There are so many folks and organizations doing charitable things this season, so why not join in? Reminding ourselves (and our children) that this season of giving is so much more impactful when we remember it’s not just about us. Look outside your own home, or neighborhood, and to the needs of those less fortunate.

A few ways to give back…

Restoration House has an Amazon wishlist full of items needed to help the families they serve settle into their homes. Purchase a personalized photo gift for someone on your list, while a portion of the sales go to support the Secret Safe Place for Newborns of TN. Gather excess new and unopened items from your own kitchen or bathroom for the Angelic Ministries needs list. Make a difference in our local community by participating in one of the many ways the Knoxville Community Action Committee has organized this year. Provide a gift or volunteer your time Helen Ross McNabb’s Dear Santa program. Give financially or fill a “Gift of Change” gift sack for our friends at Helping Mamas Knoxville. Shop for new items for kids entering the foster care system on the Isaiah 117 House needs list. Show some neighborly love by hand delivering a poinsetta, fresh wreath, or holiday cookies to someone on your street.

Look back, to look forward.

As the year quickly comes to a close, don’t find yourself spinning from all the busyness. Some slow moments can turn a whirlwind of a year past, into meaningful reflections and insights. A writer we love, Tsh Oxenrider, has put together some End of Year Reflection Questions we love.

In what ways did you dwell well this year?

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